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Merry Christmas (and how to keep it merry for the introverts in your life)!

So I know this is very last minute, but I just wanted to wish everyone all the best for whichever of the season's holidays you observe, and to say this:

If you’re doing a big, noisy Christmas this year, please remember to love and care for your introverts. They’re putting themselves in a stressful situation because they love you. That doesn't mean they don’t want to be there. But it does mean if they slip away from the party to take time out, you should let them. It doesn't mean anything’s wrong or that you’re a bad host. Don’t put them on the spot or make them feel like a party pooper just because they won’t join in every game or song. Don’t expect them to keep your kids (be they child or adult) entertained. Keep them well-stocked in whatever they’re drinking and remember there’s a difference between introversion and isolation. They’re still there to see you, so feel free to approach with a bottle of nice wine and two glasses – only two – in hand.

Merry Christmas from my cocoon. Wishing all the best in life, love and reading in the new year!

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  1. Brilliantly said. Thank you.

    I'm late, but I hope you had a Merry Christmas.

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